A Conceived Reality

The aura of heartbreak
Was just beginning to wear off
When his eyes met mine
And lulled my senses.

My staggering emotions took the center stage
But he embodied such gentleness
And groped his way through

My quirks took the better part of me
But he turned a blind eye
And wrapped me in his huge arms

As we slow danced
Moving to the rhythm of the music
And living for the moment
His sotto voce lingered in my ears leaving a lasting impression

He listened to my shaky uttrances and reveled in them
As a connossieur of my deeds, his fondness clouded his judgement

My fastidious nature gave way to vulnerability when his fingers touched mine

Not in my wildest imaginations would I have ever envisaged such ardour.

If this is a dream I refuse to wake up because my reality is no way synonymous to this.



#DearFuturePartner Take Note III

Yo! How y’all doing?! 🙂

I bring you once again for the last time the final part of this series. Ok, so let’s get started.

1. Change one bad habit that negatively affects your relationship. It need not be extreme. Small positive changes can have a big impact.
2. Boys, all that a girl wants is an assurance that you’ll always take care of her and do anything for her happiness.
3. Bad manners aren’t attractive. Turn up on time for a date,put your phone on silent and do say a thank you for a wonderful time before leaving.
4. Go down on your knees and tell him you can’t live without him. No not with a ring ofcourse, just to make him feel special. LOL.
5. He wants to be the one who makes you smile or laugh so laugh at any attempt of humour. He’ll be very glad.
6. Notice everything about your partner,look for the great things,keep your mind filled with fabulous traits and characteristics.
7. Not only compliment her but say nice things to people around her. This will show your positive side to her.
8. Look into the eyes of your partner with deep interest. Look for a lengthy eye contact during conversations. He will get the hint that you like him; that’s if you do anyway.
9. Look for signs like frequent blinking and fluttering eyelashes to know you’re heading in the right direction. She likes you back. LOOOOL.
10. Let out the real you. Don’t try being a person you think your date will like. Afterall you don’t want him to fall for the false version.
11. Keep the 1st date short and simple, so that if you don’t like each other you won’t have to go through a seven-course meal together.
12. Just understand that not every date idea will work for everyone. Before planning some kind of outdoor date make sure she’s the outdoor type.
13. Just as important as asking questions is how you listen to your date. Listening skills are more than just waiting for your turn to talk.
14. In the age of emails and social networks, a love letter is a rarity. So put forward your feelings elegantly through written words and seal with a kiss.

*Phew! Really after all these, my point is you can actually have a relationship and at the same time have a swell time without sex. Yes! By the time you both sit down,put heads together and make plans for like let say a year you won’t even have time to think about it. The fun will be so exciting and overwhelming. You’ll be looking forward to a lot of things and time you’ll spend together. Really! Young people y’all need to be more creative and i know you are y’all are just LAZY! Yes! If you have a tight schedule just squeeze out time for your partner and just TALK. I promise you it will go a long way in improving your relationship and if you can’t just stay away. There’s no crime in being single. You don’t have to join the bandwagon. Really!

Alright y’all my work here is done.

The Evolution

How Y’all Doing?!

I promise i’m in a better mood today. 🙂

Like every normal regular child my reading culture has evolved. From Enid Blyton to short stories to Literature books to M&B and now Christian Fiction. I think over the years i’ve developed a flair for reading and because of that i’m very particular about the things i read. I was more drawn to Romance than any other genre. History was just bleh and Sci-Fi was just too difficult to comprehend. LOL. As usual my half-sister has had the hugest (any word like that?) influence on me despite the very short period we lived together and this is one of them. I guess it’s normal right?!

Anyways one night some years ago, i woke up to my sister reading a Sidney Sheldon novel yeah i remember. We used to share a room then. At first i was digusted wondering what was kept her till that time of the night. I think she used a torch or something. (No wonder she developed Night Blindness *rme). Well the next morning,i picked up the book, you know the regular 500 pages or so (Is it?! Now i’ve forgotten *sigh) and glanced through it. I dunno out of curiosity i guess. Anyways i dropped it quickly because the size scared me. I couldn’t imagine reading something of that magnitude. Later one, (my sister had a couple with her at that time) i mistakenly saw an Harlequin novel in her wardrobe. You know the size, less than 200 pages and the front cover and title was quite captivating i must confess. So that was how it began, i read all my sister’s books including the Sidney Sheldon i was afraid of and even surpassed her. I used the greater part of my pocket money to buy novels and i grew. From Harlequin which was kinda an inspirational romance to M&B to Sidney Sheldon to Mary Higgins Clark to Danielle Steel name it. Anyone i could lay my hands on. Infact it got to a time that back then in school i became a distributor. LOL. Yeah. Some even fought me over it. I owned over 50 novels and my mom NEVER knew till date. Wow! I was that secretive and it became an addiction. Bad bad girl!

The turning point came yeah it did. I was with a family friend one day, yeah my mom’s boss,we were quite close so i could move around the house as i wished. That very day,i came across a huge library,not that i hadn’t seen it before,i just didn’t pay attention. I was curious to know what sort of books were stocked so i picked one up and it was a Karen Kingsbury book. The cover and title was quite intriguing so i sat down and read the first page. Wow! That night i took 3 books home and 2 days later i returned them for another set. I read them continuously,steadfastly,all day,all night. My mom didn’t even bother me because she knew i had to return them. They were in series so i couldn’t stop. Before the end of the month i was done with all the books in that library and i’m not exaggerating. Mainly Karen Kingsbury and a bit of Lori Wick. My zeal had moved from romance to Christian Fiction. I was practically addicted. Now that’s a good thing.

I didn’t actually stop reading Mills & Boons until i heard a sermon. Pastor Ronke said it was written pornography (How could i not have known?! SMH) maybe because i was more interested in the storyline than the actual description. Yes! Take it or leave it! Mary Higgins Clark makes it look like a crime story. *rme. Anyways after the sermon i made up my mind not to read a novel again. Apart from the fact that i was trying to actually have a relationship with God, i wasn’t interested in messing my head and my mind. So i let go. Mind you, i have short-term amnesia,i hardly ever remember anything that isn’t important and No, i don’t have a distorted perspective on love and romance. I perfectly know what i want and what i can accept. So right now i try as much as possible to read anything Godly and inspiration that will have a positive influence on my life.

Like they say, started from the bottom,now we are here.
My work here is done 🙂

P.S: i just gave out my batch of novels. *screaming* ‘THERE WAS NO ONE TO GIVE’ i just found someone and i made sure i gave out ALL!!!! I didn’t sneak to read. I promise 😀 *cross my heart*. It has hidden somewhere in the store. :D. I know y’all believe me right?! Right?! LOOOL!

#DearFuturePartner Take Note II

Hiya Good People.

I’m here again with the second part of this series. I hope you enjoyed the previous one. Some might think it’s stressful and unnecessary buh really how far are you willing to go for your partner?! Are you willing to go the extra mile and do things you ordinarily wouldn’t do?! Anyways that’s for y’all to ponder on.
Moving on,before i continue i will like to say as a matter of fact that i’m single(and not searching) atm and if perchance the right person comes along, i won’t hesitate to try out a couple of tips i’m dishing out. So for the record i’m writing this for myself and others as well.

Okay! Let’s get down to business.
1. The thumb rule for a happy relationship is to treat others the way you wish to be treated.
2. Laugh on your problems together. This will give you time to relax and prepare the solutions.
3. Make sure you smell nice. Ladies like guys who smell nice and vice versa.
4. Say those golden words when your partner expects them the least. You’ll make their day.
5. Everyone has their own struggles and every relationship has its own challenges. Stop comparing.
6. Let your partner win the arguments and fights. Give in happily and see what it does to your relationship.
7. Remember the time you guys started dating and recreate that magic by doing all those things again.
8. If you partner is too shy to give you a hug when you’re leaving, say; ‘Can i have a hug?’ and make it a rule.
9. You must have heard that the way through a guy’s heart is through his stomach. It’s equally true for ladies as well.
10. Take charge of your realtionship every once in a while. Do things for him instead. Guys like to be pampered.
11. Surprise her with a date in the middle of the day and you’ll be surprised how lively the conversation can become.
12. It’s a proven fact that guys want girls who are nice to them. So be kind to them and smile when they are around.
13. Don’t try to dig into his past to understand what kind of person he is. Decide on him by the way he makes you feel.
14. Don’t let your dating turn your budget upside down. Check out some affordable yet cool places to spend time together.
15. Don’t get too dependent on your partner that will make him/her feel trapped. Try to keep a healthy balance between you too.
16. A good date is what allows two of you to talk buh at the same time takes the focus off you so you don’t feel under pressure.
17. Getting that bracelet or jacket she’s been eyeing is a great way to show you actually listen to her when she speaks.

Alrite y’all my work here is done.
See ya next time for the final part of this series.


#DearFuturePartner Take Note!

How y’all doing?!

I’m one of the ‘very few’ people that still believe relationships should be fun. And by that i mean hanging out either at the movies, a concert, a romantic night-out or just relaxing and enjoying each other’s company or better still staying home and just talk! Yeah totally possible. These days young people are more bothered about the number of ladies they’ve slept with and vice versa. I believe relationships should be about getting to know people, building friendships that will last forever, commitments, taking responsibilty for another person’s well being and just having fun. I dunno. Maybe people aren’t exposed enough or are just plain lazy. Or what could the problem be?!

Anyways i’m here to give y’all a couple of tips that may seem not so important but goes a long wayy in improving relationships. I’m not a Subject Matter Expert(SME).These are culled from various sources. I hope you learn a thing or two.

1. Hold hands while walking together. It gives a woman a sense of belonging and to men a message you aren’t afraid of showing the world.
2. Execute a vacation or an outing you guys have been talking about. This will reassure your partner of your commitment level.
3. Take up a sport together. It will keep you fit and bind you two in team spirit.
4. Gifts need not to be expensive all the time. Sometimes tiny little things can show you were thinking of your partner even on outing with besties.
5. It does get difficult to handle those split personalities of guys. Macho from outside and tender from within but it’s what you’re best at.
6. A great way of spending time together is dancing. It will improve the chemistry between you two besides keeping you fit and it’s fun too.
7. Photos are the best way to cage memories. So induge in something as interesting as photography. Choose a theme and go for it.
8. Ask questions like; who’s your best friend?, what’s your childhood ambition? What scares you most? To know their innermost feelings.
9. Beauty sleep before a date is a must. You don’t want to dose off while watching a movie or feel uncomfortable about those dark eye circles.
10. For some, relationships are all they have. You might be dating someone like that. Try not to hurt them with too much indifference.
11. Purchase a small locket with a picture of you and your partner on each side.
12. Stop worrying about tomorrow. Instead live every moment together. Live in right now!
13. To leave a lasting impression on your love interest, just be comfortable and be yourself.
14. Whispering draws attention. When your partner is too busy to listen to you,use this trick.
15. A gentle head/shoulder/foot massage to your partner can do wonders to your relationship. Try it.

LOL. Chessy innit?!
I hope someone was inspired
Watch out for Series II.